****Did you miss my webcast on soul ties? If so, listen to the replay here> 7 reasons you have a Sexual Soul Ties and don’t know it****
Often our current relationships or marriage suffer, because we are still caught up in our past both emotionally and spiritually. By spiritually I mean unhealthy sexual soul ties. Sexual soul ties often have us caught in a cycle of dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships. Well, it’s time to shed more light on this common issue.
So what is a soul tie? A soul tie is two souls tied together by the spirit. Mainly caused by sex or sexual abuse.
What does the Bible say about soul ties?
The Bible does not directly use the term “soul tie”, but it does say the following in Ephesians 5:31,” For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they shall be one flesh.” Here we learn that the connecting of souls was created for husband and wife. OK, now let’s look at the Old Testament. In Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.” Guess what? Jesus repeats the scripture over again in Mark 10:7, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.”
This leads to my next point. In the eyes of God “the act of sex is marriage through consummation.” Every single time an unmarried person has sex they become married to that person. For example if someone has had twenty-five sex partners, they have probably been exposed to hundreds of other souls. If the other person had more than one partner, then you are also exposed to all their partners as well. In simple terms, you have sex with everyone they have had sex with. So as one can easily see this makes having a truly loving, intimate, and close union very difficult.
In Biblical times there was no wedding in the way it is viewed today, so becoming one flesh was marriage. Even today if a couple seeks a divorce in some states the judge will ask “Has this marriage been consummated?” Consummation means in legal terms to complete a marriage by sexual intercourse.
What other ways can soul ties form?
Soul ties are mainly formed through sexual intercourse, but they can also form emotionally. Please understand sex outside of marriage rips and tears the soul when one tries to break away. Remember you are joined as one, so when you break away it hurts you. What is left are the emotional scars. In my own life I have seen words even become a source of a soul tie. When people say, “I will love you forever” or “I got your back no matter what” you tend to hold on to those words when you have a soul tie because a co-dependency has been created.
Sexual abuse is another way soul ties can be formed. When someone has been sexually abused as a child and becomes an adult the soul tie can greatly affect their relationship. In my next blog I will explore how to break sexual soul ties.
Unhealthy relationships are another cause of soul ties. We can define these relationships as physically or emotionally abusive, manipulative, victim mentality and high levels of sexual lust. I personally believe soul ties are one of the main reasons women or men have a difficult time leaving emotional and abusive relationships. Join me next week as I discuss tips to overcome soul ties.
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If only young people understood the repercussions of the things they assume are “No big deal”…
I agree Lisa
I totally agree, that it would of have been better if we would of have waited…..I wouldn’t have to deal with so much trauma, while I do still love her, her heart has been broken……due to all of the let downs….:( My father tried to tell me, and I did not listen, well I did, but did I really? I should of have waited, it has not been easy, it feels like that I am walking on egg-shells…..but I am trying to help….
It breaks my own heart, because of this mess…..
I also have looked at porn, I’ve looked at it since I was very young…
I didn’t know what it was, but it was very interesting, but it also hurt too , I try to turn away from it, and while I have, other days it seems that I must “need it”…for some reason…
How do we get out of this bondage?
I do know that I do love her, but sometimes it seems that my love is not good enough, it seems that all of these hurts are coming up to the surface, and there is nothing that I am able to do except to sit on the sidelines and see the pain….:( sad, truly sad
I know that she is saved, but sometimes I don’t even think that she knows what she is doing……
Sigh……I wanna help, I want her to be done and to be clean from all of this “garbage, and these lies”, that she had to endure….
One day
So glad you are tackling this subject! I would also add that viewing or engaging in porn can and does create soul ties. I have heard sex and porn addicts use this exact term when referring to their addiction: “soul tie.” You don’t have to physically be with a person to create a tie with them. And, like you said, we then create a soul tie with every person that person has been with. The ramifications of that are incredibly scary. But I believe you are right on. We don’t just come into contact with physical consequences when we give our bodies and hearts to more than one person. We can experience severe spiritual consequences as well.
Yes, I agree. I discussed that in my two part webcast series…
People who have had a very active sexual past seldom realise that the generational sins or iniquities of their previous partners are also transferred through sexual soul ties. Even after confession of the sinful action , the scars and deep emotional wounds can remain hidden without the individual knowing. Deliverance can be administered but in many cases the demon remains latent unless it is discerned and removed. Soul ties are very serious if its not broken.
The next time you seem some drop dead gorgeous woman or man it would serve you well to ask many questions about their past before you put on the ring. Sorry ! if I scared you but demons are often transferred through soul ties.
It can take a while to revoke, repent and resist this spirit long after the relationship is over. One should never enter a next relationship after you have confidently broken this soul tie.
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Thanks for this post, I am definitely going to tweet this. The drama ministry at my church just did a skit regarding this issue this past weekend. Another thing that people don’t realize is that there is also a demonic transference associated with extra-marital sex. So whatever demons have been plaguing all of the previous sex partners as well as the present is also transferred to you, and even in regard to the struggle to stay pure, when there’s a fall, there is an opening for the stronghold to grip you with SEVEN TIMES the amount of demons that were plaguing you before (Matthew 12:43-45).
It’s so important to have an UNDERSTANDING of how these things work!
I am trying in my own way to help young women to understand through my own blog,
http://motherofateenagedgirl.blogspot.com/
Because what I have come to realize as a single, and a single mother, is that the adult as well as the teen struggle for purity is exactly the same. Thanks so much for your ministry, and I think I’ll be writing a blog post of my own about this blog post as well as providing the link!!!
Yes, you are correct my friend. I discuss the transference of spirits in the audio link above the blog. Awesome! Young women need the help and encouragement! Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I appreciate you…
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God is good…I have been dealing with breaking away from someone I have been dealing with for 2 years now, because I loved them…even though I knew God didn’t want me with him I just couldn’t get away…this relationship just drained me so emotionally it didn’t benefit ME at all. I lost so much of myself, fell further away from God but in 2011 I told God that I was going to come back home, to him completely. I must say that even though I’m shedding tears as I type this God has been with me as I have gotten stronger and more focused on my relationship with HIM, that’s as 2012 rolls in I will not be taking along that man into my New Year! Quentin your articles have given me such insight in the short amount of time that I have been reading them, but I am ever so grateful that God saw fit for me to see them. Thank You!
God bless you sister. God is with you and he will help you heal. Seek your healing and learn from your mistakes, so you will become a better woman from them. Make sure you check out the article and video about how to break sexual soul ties here–> https://quentinmccall.com/overcomingsexualsoulties/
This was very similar to Juanita’s Buynum’s “No More Sheets”. WOW!!! So many of us are going through because we haven’t “divorced” ourselves from this type of relationship. And unfortunately, it’s not only the unbelievers. Lord, help us!
I ask all an unmarried read this page. It is real of help. God bless.
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Soul ties, great subject. I am very intertwined with such graphic and my heart goes out to those who are searching to be delivered from the past and hoping to be whole again. I have a question for you, what about the soul ties of babymama and babydaddy? If babydaddy moved on with another and babymama gave her all unto, how does she move past such iniquity? Holding on to the greatest thing that had come out of the relationship which is the beautiful child she bore, but is on a quest with God and still confused. I look forward to hearing your response.
Thank you.
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Your article truly saved me. Thank you for sharing this vital information.
I WORKED IN THE CHURCH GOD HAD ME REOPEN 5 MONTHS AGO. I WAS NOT LOOKING FOR ANYONE. BUT I STOOD BY ONE OF THE BROTHER IN THE CHURCH GIVNING CHURCH INFOR. WE ENDED UP WORKING EVERYDAY , STUDING, READING SPENDING TIME, MAKING MIRCALES HAPPEN TOGTHER, PRAYING FOR THE SICK AND ALL GODLY THINGS. WE END US GETTING TOGETHER. HE CRIED LIKE I NEVE SAW BEFORE . WHEN I BROKE IT OFF. BUT WE COULD STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER. I FOUND OUT HE HAS SOMEONE ELSE LIVING IN HIS HOUSE.. SO THEY SAID. NEVER KNEW THE TRUTH. STIIL DON’T. SO I BROKE IT OFF. THIS MAN DID EVERYTHING WITH ME AT NITE. EVEN WHEN I LEFT THE CHURCH CAUSE THE PASTOR SAID THE HEALING OF 173 PEOPLE WAS IN ERROR AND IT WAS NOT GOD. A DEAF GIRL EARS OPEN. I STEP OUT OF THE CHURCH. HE GAVE UP HIS KEY. AND STEPPED OUT WITH ME. HE STOOD BY ME NO MATTER WHAT. WE STUDY EVERY NITE TOGETHER, PRAYED EVERY NITE TOGETHER. HE EVN TOLD ME HE WANTED TO SPEAND ETERINTY WITH ME. WE SPEND DAY AND NITE TOGETHER IN THE CHURCH HELPING OTHERS.NO MATTER WHAT I WANT WHEN IT CAME TO JESUS HE STOOD AND DID WHAT WAS NEEDED. IS THIS A SOUL TIES.. ARE WE NOT SUPPPOSE TO TRAIN OUR MEN UP IN CHRIST? HE WAS ALREADY IN THE WORD. WHEN I MET HIM. HE WAS EVERYTHING I PRAYED FOR AFTER 5 YEARS OF NO DATING. BUT HE DECIDED HE WANT TO GO BACK TO THE GIRL HE SAID HE OWED HER, BECAUSE HE MADE HER PROMISTES. AND HE ALWAYS KEEPS HIS PROMISTIES.HE SAID THIS WAS NOT THE END OF US.. WIS THIS A SOUL TIE.. AND SO, WHAT DO I DO I COULDN’ EAT AND EITHER COULD HE AFTER THE SLIP. FOR DAYS. TILL WE JOINED BACK, TO SPLIT AGAIN.
Girl you have got to be kidding me! Your post sounds really confusing andso does you. Not to attack you in any shape or form but it sounds real clear to me that you are addicted in the most unhealthy way possible to this guy. Im just trying to spin some Godly wisdom your way so please listen! No true man of God will risk angering or severing his relationship with the by fornicating if he truely loves God and respect you. Dont allow satan to decieve you as he is the great deciever, there are a great deal of individuals who use the word of God and the church to do satans work. For this man to sleep with you has caused your relationship with God to be severed, now you have to start over and come up from where you left off. And believe me sister it is a long and extremely painful trip believe me i was on that road. I fornicated and suddenly felt a strong void in my soul as if God had turned His back on me. My prayers seemed unanswered, everything was falling apart and crumbling one after the other before my eyes i felt like dying. All this and that man was gone forever. One second of satan’s pleasure caused distruction for a while until God deemed ot was time and i had truely learned, then did He bring me out. Yes, absolutely you are soul tied to this guy in an unGodly way. Until you are delidelivered, healed and have learned your lesson which it seems you have not your true soulmate from God will never show up. God will never place one of His children with a mate who is soul tied to a person through fornication. Wise up be strong and listen to what the Spirit of the Lord tells you…….Peace and Blessings
Anothet thing sister, you are completely out of order. No woman is suppose to yrain a man up in Christ. He should already know and be walkimg with Christ. Men are to lead and be leaders. He is the covering of the woman. You went way off track and out of with the spirit of God. You ate not to lead a man like Jezebel did Asa.Once again, wise up be smart hete the Spirit of the Lord……Peace and Blessings
I really appreaciate this article. I listened to your webcast and it brought tears to my eyes. I got revelation on why I kept engaging in one toxic relationship after the other. The effects of sexual soul ties are harmful to the spirit! I am seeking deliverance in this area!
Interesting – I know a case where the marraige has not been fully consumated in ten years yet the husband slept with someone else so who is married to who? In this case shoud the husband break those ties and stay faithful to his wife whom he’s possibly not really married to & be celebate?
That is a very rare and odd situation. Of course he should be faithful to his wife and refrain from sexual relations outside of his marriage. In spiritual terms he never married and it’s possible a soul tie has been created with the other woman.
So he’s not spiritually married to his wife or the other woman?
Also may seem a strange question but Is it strictly true in terms of 1 flesh if a condom is used?
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what??? where u get that having sex is actually get married?…may u show me ur souces, because I thought that mariage and sex where different things
First, you need to read the blog including provided links. Second, you need to watch the video. Once you do all of that you will have your answers. Skimming is not reading nor is it learning. I can understand your confusion, but it’s not really all that confusing. I am writing from a spiritual perspective of the spiritual laws of God and not the physical laws of man. I have laid out everything over two blogs, a video and a free training I gave. It’s a lot of info and you may not have time to consume it all, but it will help you understand. If not simply Google and you will see varying thoughts and opinions. This is my version..Based on 1 Cor 6:15-17 and Mark 10:7-9…Yes sex and marriage is different from our physical and carnal world, but in spiritual terms of how God created things to be having sex bonds our spirits and in the spiritual realm a spiritual marriage has been created. It’s like in some states when people go get a divorce and the judge says..,”Was this marriage consummated?” Which means was the marriage sealed through the act of sex..in a lot of states if not the marriage never happen. This thought process is based on the same Biblical knowledge I am sharing. It’s deep and you have to spend time in the Bible and studying for complete peace and understanding of it.
https://quentinmccall.com/overcomingsexualsoulties/
This is actually really interesting. I enjoyed the Mp3 as well, this is my first time hearing about you and your blog at all. Glad I did stumble across it. I connected with A LOT of what you talked about in the audio portion. I had heard of the term sexual soul tie before but it’s good you went more in depth about it.
it’s not just young folks that are doing this 30 and 40 yr olds are switching and swapping sexual partners everyday especially amongst the black race. it sad and sickening as well especially with diseases running rampet and HIV killing daily
Interesting stuff
My ex boyfriend recently passed in April of this year. And all of a sudden I have bad chest pains and feel depressed at times. And I am still grieving. Is it possible his spirit can still be in me or connect to mine because we used to have sex? And his spirit is why im feeling this way? I just want to know.
Most of the ‘holy’ men of the Bible had more than one wife and concubines. By today’s standards, those men would not qualify to lead God’s people.
so down * depressed since break-up almost 6 months ago
verbally abusive
unmarried middle-age sex
How do you break soul tie between parents that are spiritually harming through witchcraft?The enemy is using my mother an sister to destroy my life,because my spirit did not join there cult.This started when I became a christian at the age of 19.So many pastors from different churches point to these 2 individuals. How do one break free from house hold enemies.
This is great!! I really enjoyed reading this passage!! This is very informative Thank you Quentin McCall !!
@October…Thank you!
I have a question. Can soul ties be formed by just kissing and fondling but not having actual sex?
Yes it is still possible to develop a type of emotional tie to someone through kissing, etc because of the lustful nature of the action.
I believe none of this is true and this is man way of putting together what they think is happening when one has sex with another. Think about it. A young girl gets raped ang God allowed this to happen and so she is soul tired to this stranger when its not her fault but God already knew it would happen? If this soul tie man made theory is correct then the entire world is soul tied since scripture says u have fornicated through thoughts of lust. Think. This does not mean the man who thought of sex or the little girl has demonic spirits inside their soul because even in death, only one soul leaves the body not the entire group of people each party has had sex with. If before one is married by mans law, he had srx with 42 women in his past, that does not mean that his wife has 42 demonic spirits added to her body lol this is silly. I know a few girls who use to prostitute for money and they dont have 692 different demonic souls in them. They arent even a little bit crazy and that’s y I believe man have taken these few scriptures and twisted it to their liking because there is no way that u can get an evil soul inside u by looking, kissing hugging, touching, ir whatever it is that uhave made up. Do u know that the scripture said that David soul was knit to his friends soul simply just because david had brotherly love for him as he loved his own soul…so explain that soul tie?????? U cant because its not true
@Jennifer I agree with you. From the scriptures quoted in this article it is a QUANTAM LEAP IN LOGIC that there is a such thing as a “soul tie.”
A lot of people believe in this idea. And there are a lot of people attempting to CASH IN on people’s ignorance.
There are no “soul ties.”
The word of God does, however warn against ADDING TO His word.
Rev 22:18
Deut 4:14
Prov 30:6
Jer 26:2
This is why we shouldn’t be having sex outside of marriage, because soul ties are real.
LoL what kind of nonesense is that stop being philosophical so your saying even if raped happened she’s soul tied your talking rubbish