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There are some men who seem to attract the attention of every woman. Then there are other men who, well… maybe they go unnoticed more often than not. That initial attraction is based on emotion, lust, or physical desire and is not rooted in anything of substance. Making decisions to date and commit to a person based on these factors can be a very costly mistake.
The purpose of dating is to get to know someone, not to have sex or fulfill lustful desires. When you rush to the dating phase, you miss the opportunity to develop solid friendships and really get to know a person. Being friends first allows you to start identifying core characteristics of the type of man who will date you for the purpose of marriage.
Here are 7 types of men that you should date:
1. The Unmarried Man –
This may seem obvious, but it is very necessary to mention. There are too many women attempting have relationships with married men. Married men are not a candidate for single women to date… period! This includes married men who are separated (legally or otherwise). They are still married and not available to date. Married people have their own families and concerns to deal with. That being said, the unmarried man, who is devoted to the things of God, is the type of man you should be interested in dating. (1 Corinthians 7:32-35).
2. The Kingdom Seeker –
A man who is seeking God’s Will for His life will, not only seek out a woman to date, but will seek out his wife. The Bible says, “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (Matthew 6:33). Ladies, you should be an asset; the thing that is *added* to him as he is FIRST seeking the kingdom of God. This is why I say, run as fast as you can for Jesus and the one who can keep up might be the one.
3. The Real Man –
No, I am not talking about machismo behavior (all the shoulders back, chest out, fist curling gestures and such)… Real men don’t need all of that. That’s what grown-boys do to get a woman’s attention. Real men “pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace” (2. Timothy 2:22). Real men regard women as a gift that is not to be taken advantage of; they see her as priceless and desire to cling to her (Matthew 19:5). A real man’s character shows his high regard for a woman long before the dating stage.
4. The Learner –
A man who is in continual pursuit of knowledge is better equipped to handle life and execute on goals / plans. He should read, seek counsel, study continuously, etc… The Bible says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed”( Proverbs 15:22). Also, “My people are destroyed because of lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). A man who is willing to learn and gain knowledge in life should also be more open to gaining knowledge about love and having successful relationships.
5. The Multiplier –
A man shouldn’t just balance you out, he should constantly add to you. His presence should multiply your potential. He should add to the beauty of who you are and never take away from anything that is precious about you. ( “Relationship Coaching: Do you multiply or divide?”) The Bible says, “Do not be deceived: ‘Bad company ruins good morals.’” (1 Corinthians 15:33). The man you date should never cause you to compromise good morals. He should seek ways to support you in your values. His values should complement yours.
6. The Servant –
A man who has demonstrated a pattern of submitting to authorities in his life (leadership, pastors, parents, etc…) will also have an understanding of how to submit to God as the head of his life and, subsequently, how to commit to his future wife. The Bible says, “Obey your leaders and submit to them… Let them do this with joy and not with groaning,” (Hebrews 13:17). His positive attitude towards authority figures is an indication of his servant’s heart and also provides a picture of how he can be in a dating relationship.
7. The Consistent Man –
Emotions rise and fall, but character shows with consistency. The consistent man is not in a rush because he does not have poor intentions, nor is he interested in manipulating a woman to be led by her emotions (“ Warning: Don’t Follow Your Heart”). He will take his time to get to know you and will allow you to get to know him as well. The Bible says, “Whoever walks in integrity will be delivered, but he who is crooked in his ways will suddenly fall.” (Proverbs 28:18). Over time, the consistent man’s good character will still stand, while the man with bad intentions will also come to light.
Remember, the purpose of dating is to get to know a person. If you take your time to get to know him, you will be able to find out if he is the type of man you should date.
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That is good stuff! @ missmax, if I had known what I know now about how to date, I could have save myself alot of heartache..And it wasnt all the man’s fault.. My begin thristy for a husband after keeping myself for 5 years, I honestly thought he was” THE ONE”..God knows ur “clock is ticking” heck he created you..if we will wait with the right spirit, he will surely find us.
OH YEAH!! Thank you Mr.McCall!
Very important things to look for! A man after God’s own heart!
I loved this. I’m taking notes.
Right.
Love it and all the qualities listed. Pray for God’s grace for His direction and not to miss out cause its for life and no going back
Was having a hard time trying to decide about a gentleman that I have been in mingle with for about 4 months. This article settles what I should be doing and who I should be waiting for. It is, clearly, not this person. Sad and hard, but now I know. Wow and Ouch!
Priscilla,
Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water. It’s not all about you it’s also about are you for him. You both sit down and have a conversation about things. This is why you focus on friendship and nothing more..
Quentin,
I think you’ve just given Priscilla extremely poor advice. She read your articles, which clearly showed her that she might be dating a man WITHOUT these characteristics, but you tell her to hang in there WITH this guy after she sees she may be barking up the wrong tree. Why even publish an article with so many good tips if you in turn tell a person to hang in there with a guys who may not be doing any of these things. She’s not throwing the baby out with the bath water. She’s getting rid of a guy clearly not right for her especially if she’s feeling uneasy after four months!
Priscilla, I am a married wife/mother and I have a beautiful marriage, but I dated a lot of bad dudes before I understood what true love is!!! My advice to you is to not waste anymore time and RUN!!!! Sometimes guys give us good advice but other times they give us advice that leans towards the benefit of the men. Quentin may not have closely read what you posted. If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it’s a duck!!!! The most I would do is re-read his article and ask myself if my dude is any of the things listed. Then I would go out and buy the book “Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives.”
@Pamela
My advice was very good. Why would I tell a stranger to leave a man ? I don’ t know the details of the relationship and neither do you. I do not believe in this new age “run” because it’s garbage. People make up every excuse in the world looking for reasons to leave, but how often do we look for reasons to stay? Not every human being is hopeless nor is every situation. If someone would have treated me like you are suggesting I would have never came to Christ at the age of 23 and changed my life around to become who I am today. People have to pray and discern from God the direction of their own personal situations. Based on the very limited information I was given I told her right….How do you know she is not the problem or at the very least apart of it? It would be ignorant of me to tell someone to run from a man when I don’t know the details. I gave her base level advice along with this article, so she can make the decision best for her after having a heart to heart convo with him. We attract what we are, so if you or any man/woman keep meeting bad people it’s because of us not them. She has to pray for discern and look more at herself than the man. She may even need to be alone w/o dating for period of time…..The guy may need the same thing who knows….She reads my work all the time and she knows how to email if she likes to tell me more….You are welcome to your opinion, but with all due respect this is a ministry of love, restoration, and healing…….My mission and call the last 13 years has been to save and restore…….
This is so awesome, I really admire and look up to you as someone who I would like to emulate as far as getting my own thing going similar to yours. I give out this same advice all the time but to actually see someone on level, I am inspired to go forth and give it, I was writing a book as we speak about this because I really think it starts with our women. Also we have to seek his face for understanding and guidance in the face of the unknown for discernment. You are truly a blessing and I wish the Lord continue to work through you.
@Menelik …THank you so much. TO God be the glory…I am on this journey as God works through me to fulfill the mission and call he has given me. Continue writing your book and never give up on your dreams. Remember God has uniquely gifted you and he has people ready to be blessed through your book. I appreciate your kindness.
Women don’t always have the luxury of time when dating, our clocks are ticking, a woman if she wants a husband and kids. She needs to be able to identify viable candidates sooner than later
Clock is ticking mindset will only lead you to being hurt, disappointed and with the wrong man…don’t worry about that…..God will take care of that…walk in faith and focus on being truly single…with God…as u become a Queen….a King will appear
Quentin, I am 110% agreeing with you on this post. No one has the right to tell a person to leave or stay. It should be left up the the individual to make the BEST choice for themselves. Like you said, “we attract, who we are” and I also believe with knowledge of that which we are we also reflect who we no longer want to be. The young lady should certainly look at herself first, figure out who she is, before pursuing a relationship. I know I currently battle with myself about such things today, and worry about being the woman I need to be, before inviting a man into my life. Its really a personal discernment that needs to be made first of ourselves before anything else. Thank you again Quentin 🙂
Thank You Onyinyechi your comment is wonderful. You are very welcome
God bless u… ur reply to Ms Pamela is right on track…
it takes a wise person to reply precisely has u did….
i agree with u….most ppl always drop to the quicker response rather than giving it a few mins, of thinking….
very interesting…
Thank you for being a willing vessle and allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through you. This was truly a blessing and a help to me! I started dating someone about six weeks ago and I went into the friendship a little differently that I’ve done in the past….PRAYING. And not praying for him to be ‘the one’, but praying for a spirit of discernment and for the Lord to continue to grow ME.
Be blessed and BE a blessing!
Excellent that is the way and continue to be friends with you. The best way to get to know someone with no expectation of anything.
This is it! Many thanks to you Quentin :-). Just wondering why it took me too long to find this kind of information.
God bless Shamim
Lovely, is directn my way
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Love this article!!
Thank you Michelle
WOW!!!! There it is…and it’s SO true!!! God bless you and your work!! It is not in vain…the seeds that you are planting into the hearts of complete strangers will reap a harvest that many families will enjoy!!! PERFECT!!!
WOW!!!! There it is…and it’s SO true!!! God bless you and your work!! It is not in vain…the seeds that you are planting into the hearts of complete strangers will reap a harvest that many families will enjoy!!! PERFECT!!!
Larochelle,
Thank you sis…when you have a ministry to serve people this is apart of it….You are so very kind and your encouragement is appreciated greatly.
YES!
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I love this very useful and resourceful. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Sandii. You are welcome
Thank you very much! Much needed information.
Awesome post!
Thank you Tameka
Yes.. Wisdom
Thank U Ebony
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If only we all can print out the article and tape it to our forehead.
U can tape it to your wall , frigid or bath room mirror
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Excellent Advice!
@Cerise Thank you so much!
Thank you Mr. McCall, this article has enlightened me and confirms my feelings of a woman’s worth. There may not be many of these men out there, but I do believe they exist.
@MS. Genuine Plenty of them sis….just getting position for one. Become the woman you expect him to be…thank you so much for your kindness and u r very welcome
Very well said…great knowledge and information..continue your good work.
@Nakisha …thank you so much
This was a great article.
this is very helpful!thanks…
@Ms .Christi…u r very welcome….thank u
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Great Advice!
@Tangelia….thank you
Thanks so much for sharing! This was very helpful especially since it was from a Godly man’s perspective
@Tiffany …you are very welcome
A very nice informative article! I just published a Christian self- help relationship book entitled, “The Female Fool: 10 Reasons Why You Aren’t Attracting a Good Christian Man.” Our goals to strengthen relationships for the Lord are much needed in a world where people are hooking up with folk God had no intentions on putting together. Your article speaks directly to females on WHAT type of man to date, while my book speaks to females on HOW to attract the right man. If females would take heed to the things listed in your article and in my book, then relationships would manifest into great marriages that would indeed last a lifetime because what God ordains it shall remain.
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Thank you Bongi
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Great job!!! Thanks for letting him use you to inform us…Be Blessed!!
Every suggestion here has a lot of merit and wisdom to it, except the “submit to authority” part. If you doubt me, check with those who submitted to little adolph hitler and the little murderous nazis!
Comprende”? Si, no?
This is awesome.. Definitely worth saving..
Thank You Joseph….
I thank God for #’s 1-7 in my fiancé. He found me I wasn’t looking nor searching; but waiting!!!!! HEY JESUS. This is only after coming through past hurts, relationships…….I spent time by myself (6yrs) in Christ learning me and being delivered from “mess* praying for who God wanted me to have. The whole time I didn’t know it would be the person I had been friends with for 4 of the 6yrs I was by myself seeking God!!!!!! Thank ya Lord….
@Ms. Tia Congrats on your engagement my friend. As I always say “friendship before love” it works…I wish you the most beautiful marriage ever
Thank you for your insight Que!
@Arthi You are very welcome
Good article ladies….thanks to a friend for putting me on 😉
I am happy you found my site through your friend. I hope were are empowered.
I have a question: I am a 22 year old mother and I love the father of my child. We were together for 5 years and we both attend college, once he went away to school after the baby was born he became a different person: Angry, mean, untrustworthy, and the complete opposite of the family man I fell in love with. He broke up with me now I’m afraid no man would ever want me with someone else child no matter how much I change myself I can’t even talk to him without him being so angry but my question is he was once one of does men, how did he become the opposite with a snap of a finger?
@Tammi
I can’t tell you what happen to him, without talking to him, but I can tell you there will be someone else who can love you and your child. I think it’s most important that you focus on seeking your healing and placing God first in your life. If you are not a member of a church find you a good Bible teaching church to begin the spiritual feeding. Also, begin to seek your healing for the emotional pain you are going through because of this. Don’t seek to change for him, but seek to change for yourself ….It maybe a good idea to step away from the relationship for a period of time to clear the air. Clearly, something is going on with him and if he can’t be open about it maybe he can talk to someone else. Sometimes the best love is loving people from a distance….I suggest you pray and truly seek the best for you and your child. He sounds like he is in pain as well, but it’s connected to something else.
Thank you!
Thank You! for your Wise words of Wisdom I read the article and Loved it. I re-posted on my FB page.
Thank you so much my friend
Love this! This came at the perfect timing.
Thank you La’Wanda!
Good reading
Thank you Janet!
http://t.co/5C71sO3L yikes. The unmarried man? low blow. =/
first time on your site. enjoyed this. great read. i pray to God allows me to be all of these to my future wife.
God bless you bro.You will…be this and much more!
Hello, i believe a man and a wan who have God feat and believe and practice the holy Bible shall make the perfect couple. I am 26 years old and I want to admit that I kiss alot of frog to realise where I was going wrong. Thank you for these arties and to confirm my thought.
GREAT ARTICLE!
Thanks!
I love when you wrote: “run as fast as you can for Jesus and the one who can keep up might be the one.” Not only will my type of man keep up he will pass me & be waiting on me just when I thought I’ve gotten so close to Jesus that I don’t need a man.
Awesome
thank you! ive been settling
This is dope! 🙂
This is dope! 🙂
THank you very much
Single ladies u might want to read this.
This is a great read. And shines a light as to why I am still single.
Sounds just like how Jesus would be…
That is correct Chris
Thank you so much Quintin for sharing this with us. I really appreciate it. I just hope to continue to do what I’m doing and be prepared by waiting for that moment and opportunity for God to send me my best friend and soul mate.
You are very welcome. THank you for reading
AMEN!!! You could of not have said this ANY better! I just found this website today and I am so happy to have done so.. your advice that I’ve read so far is truly amazing and helpful. Thanks so much
You are very welcome. I hope you come back for more..We (the k4lc community) are happy to have you
Great article. This information is truly needed for Christian women and men who are kingdom minded. Thanks
Thank you Ingrid
Thank you this article is really enlightening
Thank you Diachelle
Hope for the God Fearing women..
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Men Click Here
My <3 is all of these except part of #2. Neither of us are looking to get married ever again.
Must have been meant to be!
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Very interesting…
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Are u saying a man legally divorced can can re-marry i thought the bible spoke against it i have my own opinions about divorce though cus i am dating a lady who got divorced and church people wana give me a hell of a time. Am i doing the right thing? she is legally divorced.. I need answers pls
People get married all the time, so don’t allow that to hinder you. God has healing , grace and restoration for all of us. What is most important is that you become her friend and make sure is healed and ready to be married again. No rush…take your time truly understanding all the past, present and future dynamics….Love is always doing the right thing. Pray and do what you feel is right for your life…allow God to speak to you….allow time and the Holy Spirit to confirm.
Thank u so very much
Mr. McCall this article was very insightful and I’m extremely appreciative of that. You were definitely inspired to put your thoughts on paper and have it come out so eloquent and precise.
Regarding this matter of divorce and remarry, that advice goes again what the word of God says. The Bible states, ” A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7: 39. Here is another scripture to back up divorce and remarriage. People can be divorced but another marriage will not be acceptable in the sight of God. The divorce might be legal in man’s world but how about in God’s eyes. ” 31) It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce. 32) But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:31, 32.
E’m you might be her soulmate and she might be yours but she’s someone else’s wife in the eyes of God, if you’re looking from that perspective. If its in the law of man, like I mentioned before, then she’s free. I do hope you find the answers you’re looking for and I do pray to God that he’ll lead you in his will and his way.
This blog was so on point! It was very well written and packed with awesome advice and information! GREAT STUFF! will repost every where!
Mrs. Relationship
Thank you for reading and your kind words. I appreciate the support. Sharing the link to this article is fine, but no copy paste re-posting…Thank you my friend
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good things to buils a lasting relationship
These are the things that I look for in a man, as stated in your article. A man that loves God and seek after God in what he does. Thank you My Brother, for the advice, God Bless You…
Thank u sis
I love it!!! Just what I needed to know and be reminded of!
This is great!! This is such a Holy Spirit led article that has given me much needed insight and revelation. God Bless You and keep up the good works!
Thank you Brittnye and you are very welcome.
Thank you! Sometimes it may be hard to have patience to wait on “the one” instead of going after the one I want. But God has and continues to help me to be patient and to live my life to the fullest now and not to wait until I have a man!
Peace~
I got so much knowledge from this post. I really do appreciate #7 the most. For some reason I feel that the problem in the “dating world” is that there are those out to manipulate the situation in order to have the woman or the man thinking with emotions and not with the God given wisdom to determine what is best for you. I believe that Marriage is a beautiful experience that needs to be approach by God and not by man. Thank you guys for this message. God Bless 🙂
Thank you so much Ruby
Lovely article and I admire how you incorporate biblical references. Very practical. God bless you.
Thank You Shannelle
I loved your message, the one that got to me is your multipler because being saved now i realise that building your relationship with God prepares you for marriage and dating, all the things you learn in building your relationship with God helps in such a big way. A lot women that are not saved seek guys that dont add onto them. Only a man of God will know the benefits of adding sumthing to a person daily, because they have had a taste of what God has added on them. THANK YOU for this post please keep advicing us xx
This is a really good article. It gives good information as to the kind of guy that every woman deserves. A man after God’s own heart. A real man. Love this, hopes everyone out there find that guy!!
This is great insight… Is there anyway that we can get your post on our website?
@Bethel Radio …Thank you. No copy and paste of intellectual property is plagiarism and negatively impacts google search page rankings, thus duplicate content hurts my website.. If you contact me through my contact page I will tell you how you can properly share the article.
good stuff,,,,
I like…
When I got married, I was not in a good place emotionally. So I will definitely say you attract what you are. I married someone who said he believed in God, but he was not spiritual or religious and believed the church was a sham full of hypocrites and con artists. I grew up in the church, he didn’t. When we met, I was starting to fall away from church and, to be honest, I started losing faith in the church people, myself (for personal reasons that I won’t elaborate on). So his views didn’t bother me. The relationship showed signs of being unhealthy early on. Even though I started feeling apprehensive about it, I got married anyway for one of the reasons listed on another blog; I felt it was too late to turn back. Then, I got back in church. (They say train them up in the Lord and they will always come back). He didn’t grow up in church so he didn’t understand me wanting to go back. I invited him to a program at church. Well, I pleaded with him to come because the kids were involved. He came begrudgingly. He sat next to one of the elders in the church and started giving him his “view” on the church being filled with hypocrites, taking everybody’s money. I was soooo embarrassed. He did it because he didn’t want me to ever ask him to come back. I entered the relationship at a low point in my life and will admit that in the beginning, I added to the dysfunction. We both needed a lot of work and the relationship worked for us because we were the same. I started to grow up a bit emotionally and realized that I didn’t want to live like that ; a life full of craziness, chaos and confusion. I suggested counseling; he refused. Actually, he started cursing saying those people were rip offs who didn’t know anything. When he and I met, I would have probably agreed with him because that’s where I was in my life. So my question is, what should someone do? Just want to see what the answer will be. I made the decision myself and left. Although I knew that there was no way I could stay because my sanity and health depended on it, it took me a long time to let go of the guilt of leaving. So many Christians were telling me that I was supposed to stay no matter what. This is just the truncated version. There was so much unhealthy things going on in that marriage. One thing I still can’t quite grasp is when is it okay to leave? When can you just admit that it was wrong and move on. Can you ever just say my marriage was a mistake? I am so over the relationships, but you can probably tell from my posts, I still carry the guilt of being divorced and believe that is stifling me a bit. After my last relationship, I stop dating altogether.
Just to encourage you if I can. I did the EXACT same thing you did. I married a guy, knew he had some issues but I was just in that place of wanting to get married. He showed signs before the marriage that he was not marriage material but I felt I couldn’t turn back. Well, immediately I knew I’d made a mistake – he was cruel on our honeymoon and coming back from the HM and I just had to admit to the Lord I made a mistake but I was determined to stay and work it out. However, we can’t work it out by ourselves no matter how much we want it to work – the other person has to work on it too. He wouldn’t go to counseling either and he was one of those who had all the appearances of being a good Christian man, so he would go to church and act like a great man of God, all pious with his big Bible, but at home he was a horror. I kept praying and trying to be a loving wife to him but he would reject it and continue to be mean and unreasonable. Finally, after one of his violent outbursts – yelling and telling me to get the blank out – I decided I had enough and I was going home. I had a lot of guilt too for marrying him in the first place and I had a hard time forgiving myself, but you have to and you have to know that God forgives your mistakes no matter how misguided you were. God loves you and these things don’t define us they are just lessons we learn along the way. I waited until I was 39 to marry, I wanted to do it right but I messed up and ended up being someone who is divorced but that doesn’t define me. There aren’t some mistakes we make or sins we commit that God won’t forgive – if we ask He forgives them all so don’t allow this incident in your past to stifle your growth and condemn you because God doesn’t condemn you or hold it against you. I don’t believe God wants us to stay in an abusive situation with anyone if we have the means or ability to get out.
Men of gud qualities r kinda difficult 2 find as at naw….n some lack maturity…d whole datin tyn gives haedache:(
LOVE THIS ARTICLE!!!! Definitely sharing!!
Thanks for sharing this Mr. McCall. reading this three years ago could have spared me from marrying my ex-husband. I will definitely keep these tips in mind for the future!
Great! Very well thought out, well said, FABULOUS! Loved them both.
I needed to read this, I view these same things but have been question I was to hard on my views. I know Lord, I wasn’t wrong.
Glad you were blessed Jah’Meke
Brother, this is awesome material. Great insight. i clicked the link to see what kind of man would be described. A man of God with character and integrity. I feel like that man goes unnoticed sometimes because some people think the things of God are not that exciting…but they are. I want all God has for me! Stay encouraged my brother.
God will continue to manifest in your life IJN Sir Quentin McCall, I totally agree with what you wrote above am quite pleased 🙂 I just need an advice or what will you make of a situation whereby there is a girl who has dated various different of guys hoping to marry 1 at some point whereas during the time this girl is dating other people there as always being a different guy who likes the girl so much but this girl never gave him a chance. Regardless of this this guy still stayed being frends with the girl and whenever she needs advice he is always there. Now the girl is no longer in a relationship no more and this friend of hers is still interested in being with her but the only problem is years ago he had a child with another woman and they are not married neither are they together he just supports the baby mother financially and be there for the child. With a situation like that what would you advice for the girl in going in a relationship like that? Thank You 🙂
You forgot one – The Non-Believer.
The one who thinks for himself and doesn’t live by an ancient book or waste time with invisible friends.
This is, of course, assuming the title of your article is meant for “every” woman, not just Christian women.
Really enjoyed reading this. I look forward to the rest of your work.
Thank you my friend
This article is the most knowledgeable ever…men lets emulate the above characters
This is so true!
Great article. The 7th type struck me because I always thought of consistency as whether or not he calls weekly and now thinking about the character of the person as a consistent factor
Great response to Pamela. A lot of times we want to just give up and run. You are not going to find Mr. Perfect because you aren’t perfect. You have to put in prayer, time and work for your relationship and marriage to work. First of all, as a woman, pray and tell God what you would love in a husband. Then ask God to mold you for that husband he is going to put in your life, so you can be prepared when he finds you. You are not suppose to be looking for a husband, for the Bible clearly says “HE WHO FINDETH A WIFE”. So prepare yourself to be found. I am married and have been for four years and my husband wasn’t anyone of the things Mr. McCall requested, except for one thing my husband wanted was to be a Godly man, but if I gave up and ran because he didn’t have the qualities Mr. McCall mentioned, I would never have the wonderful husband I have today. Everyday, I say thank you Jesus for not giving up all the way. I gave up quite a few times, but with prayer and being surrounded by positive people who believes in marriages, I never gave up. By not “running”, God molded my husband to what I needed. I see that even more, now that God has blessed our marriage with a baby. Also, by my presistance, my husband learned to respect me and love me for never giving up on him. Why, because all his life, he had people give up on him, so his acting out, was something he learned for attention. By me sticking it out through the ups and downs, the bads and worse, he had no choice but to change to what was right. He isn’t perfect because none of us are, but he is my hubby and the hubby I always wanted and a lot of what I need. I then realized, I had a lot of work I needed to be done in my life as well, because I was attracting some of those behaviors. So to Priscilla, don’t be so quick to give up, pray and listen to Mr. McCall, for God surrounds us with people he knows will be good for us, we just have to listen.
Take the time to read this post. For those that have questions on anyone your dating or involved with take notes and sit with your other half and figure out what it is you all….not just you becase its not about just you, there is two of you in the mix…..need to do to make the relationship better…if it doesn’t work then move forward. But don’t be so quick to jump the gun and find the problems because that’s where the problems start…trying to figure out what’s wrong rather than doing what’s right…I admit I have faulted and did things that unmarried people don’t need to do but I have learned my mistakes and I’m trying to do right and better. And if your’re assuming that I meant I have cheated in my early twenties yes….but now being 32 I have accacpted who I want to marry its just her knowing what it is she wants to do. I have chosen to be patient and wait to see if my decision has been the decision that God has made for me……
Thank you Brother Quentin! Good information!
That is good stuff. Wish I had read this a while ago I would not have had all the heartache.
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This is exactly what I needed to see! I am a junior in college and in college, it is hard to come across a guy that truly wants to get to know you on the personal level and not the physical level. This article perfectly hilights the right type of man that I should date. Until this type of man comes along its just gonna be me and Jesus! Thank you for this article!
Octavia you are very welcome….Continue your hard work in school…
mine is a question. please what do you do when men always leave you without any reason? just this month, Dec i just find out that the current guy in my life has a 12 years daughter and i never knew about and this is a guy i have known for 3 years now. i think i need help.
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hi Quentin McCall, i read this article and wondered which kind of man iam.. im not sure if i am the servant, kingdom seeker, the learner, or the real man. is it posible to fit into more than one category?
I have all the qualities mentioned above. And I am still single. Hows that?
I loved this beautifully written Article as it sounds just like me LOL; seriously though, I didn’t know what to expect because most online criteria at least when written about women, she should be basically Independent and self-serving in order to be eligible and yet this article for men is the opposite as if a potential man CAN be a EGUNINELY “nice guy” but the Qualifier is “God driven” ! Super analysis and IF both genders were like this OMG what a “All You Need Is Love” culture we would have and I hear that “once upon a time” back ohhh in the 60s, there were ladies and gentlemen. When one looks at EVEN the TV shows then now reruns, the male images like Ben Cartwright of Bonanza, Robert Young in Father Knows Best, June Cleaver in Leave It To Beaver, Carolyn Ingles in Little House On The Prairies from the 70s etc. were {Hollywood wholesome}. Roma Downey from Touched By An Angel was a serving image too. BTW, a Movie that anyone reading this may love and is in sync with this article is called “Miracle Of Our Lady of Fatima” in black & white from 1943! Now admittedly, that’s 71 yrs ago however, it will bring a spirit out in you that will make you feel warmth. And, it is based on a true story. Another film is called “How Green Is Thy Valley” from the early 40s set in Wales. Since I am Welsh and Irish it hit home too. I’d better stop here.