Relationship Advice: How to Date Someone Who is Different From You

I want to address this issue, because I think we all have been in a situation like this before as singles. I know I have, and my story is going to be the basis of this article. Yes, folks, as always I am again using my own personal experiences to give you insight to help improve your relationships.
Let’s paint the picture of a realistic situation. She loves the outdoors; you’re happier at home. He’s into sports; you’re into shoes. He likes a home cooked meal and a movie; you may enjoy wasting a lot of money eating out on a regular basis. She may like to save money; you like to spend money. She is complicated and high maintenance; you are simple and low maintenance.
So, how many of you can relate to above scenario on some level? Yeah, I know… Frustrating, right? Well, it’s life and if God made us all the same, what a boring world we would live in.                     How to date someone who is different from you
I remember meeting this female who I deeply adored from a distance, but never really made my intentions known, but one day I did. I felt we had a lot in common, but she tended to have this fixed system of how men and women’s roles should be. Sometimes she didn’t understand the most important role is simple friendship and just getting to know each other. It’s very easy to notice selfishness and lack of maturity in others, so regardless of our dissimilar interests this one was major.
She is extroverted and I am introverted. For those of you who don’t know the difference… I am about to explain. Extroverted means, in simple terms, you are someone who requires social interactions. Introverted means, in simple terms, you enjoy quiet time alone and don’t require a lot (if any) social interactions. In a relationship, this usually means an introvert will want to stay home and watch movies or maybe have a picnic at home by the fireplace. For the extrovert, this means they may enjoy going out a lot, traveling, dinner parties, going to various social events together, etc.
Ok boom! The relationship explosion begins because now we have a tug of war and a tug of hearts. We have to learn our differences and how we value life has to be respected by each person involved. Keep in mind these differences should not be considered larger than more important things, such as character, common values and shared spiritual beliefs.
So, now, the question becomes… can an introverted and extroverted person exist together as one couple? Absolutely, but it requires a word we have all heard, but rarely practice – that word is compromise.

Read ahead for helpful tips:
1. If your partner enjoys things that you don’t enjoy I would suggest you, at least, give it a try. You never know what you like until you try it. You may not love the activity, but it’s ok to compromise with your partner for the betterment of the relationship as a whole. You see, the key is doing what is best for the overall relationship and not acting out of selfishness or frustration.

2. You should be happy seeing the one you are with happy. The feeling they get on the inside doing what they love should be more than enough reason to compromise.

3. Don’t feel like you have to compromise 100% of the time because it’s not realistic, but do the very best you can.

4. It’s ok to go about on your own sometimes doing the things you love without the person you are dating or courting. This time away from each other gives you both room to breathe, taking in fully what you love with neither party having to compromise.

5. Don’t make the “if I do for you, then you should do for me” mistake. That is selfish, immature, and conditional and speaks to bad motives. For example, if you attend a social event with your extroverted partner, don’t make the mistake of thinking they are automatically obligated to sit at home with you the next weekend. This is not about keeping a grade or score of who does what in the area of compromise.

6. Create special things exclusive to the relationship that you both enjoy doing together. When you both create these special events there is no need to compromise. You just hit play and enjoy each other.

7. Focus on growing in love, prayer, respect, honesty and open communication with each other at all times and you will avoid destroying something healthy because you think being different is bad. Talking about how you are different and how you both are going to deal with those differences is the goal.

Here’s what I want you to do next:-)

I’m glad you read this far, because it means you’ve learned a lot of good information that will help you when put it into practice. Here’s what I want you to do next …

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