Waiting for the man we believe God for can feel as if there is not much sand left in the hourglass. Getting older, all of one’s accomplishments and the personal dragons we have slain can falsely serve as a notice that it is time to get a husband, in order to complete “the dream.” Those lonely moments keep creeping in from time to time, and desire for companionship is only getting stronger. The fear of being single longer than planned can disrupt internal peace, unless we make a purposeful choice to, not only wait for God’s timing, but to wait with courage. Then we will not rationalize continuing to see “Mr. Oh So Fine” (that is not so suitable for us). Instead, we are resolute enough to walk away without the fear of losing him.
Contentment with Waiting:
Contentment with your singleness can be the determining factor of whether it is an exciting time in your life or a joyless season. Although it can be challenging to wait on the man of your dreams to walk into your life, the ability to thrive as a single person can easily override any feelings of discontentment. The key is simply to live your life by maximizing your present state. There is an entire world out there, just waiting to receive what you have to give. Regardless of where you are, there are people who need what God has placed inside of you. Living as a single woman is your time to discover what seeds have been lying dormant and begin to cultivate the richness inside of you. As a result, you will happily live with fulfillment and walk in your purpose. It is too easy to throw a pity-party and sulk about being alone another year. Challenge yourself to do something different by pursuing what life has to offer. You will consider being single a privilege, not a burden, once you discover and work on God’s assignment for your life.
The Courage to Wait:
It takes courage to wait. Courage is what pulls us through those periods of fear and doubt. It makes the difference in how we choose to live out singleness. Will we succumb to the pressures of the world to appease others and satisfy our own deficits, or will we choose to be bold and live according to God’s design? I know it is easier said than done, but the truth is, the choices made today determine the quality of life in the future. Keep in mind, God has not forgotten you. He knows the desires of your heart. Exercise patience when you feel under pressure and during times of weakness. The courage to wait on God’s timing will lead you to your destiny, including the man of your dreams.
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It does take courage and hope on the promises on the word of God to wait if not…praying everyday to wait for the better. Thanks for the tip, it always keep me on
Which is the most important part of walking boldly and faithfully with God….Thank you for your comment my friend…
It truly does take courage and patience to go through this journey. You must stay deeply in God’s word and in prayer to continue on. I am not going to lie. It is hard but I am pressing forward. It doesn’t feel good..uncomfortable, but I am standing for the Lord and allowing Him to order my steps. During this season I am working in my purpose. :0)
Yes it does Deliela so keep walking in your purpose and calling of God…
Being patient is hard for me. – then I end up being out of the will of God. In my knowing is that God has my back… It’s hard for me to stay positive in this area – Im not getting younger…I know keep doing the basics.. Pray and stay in the Word! The feelings don’t go away.
Work on being patient my friend. Lack of patience is why we sometime miss God because we place his will before our own will. Patience produces perfection and preparation if we allow it..
I am so glad of receiving this topic on today. I had been going through a certain feeling about being single and this sums it up. I needed to pray for the courage to wait. We go along life’s journey and even though we desire what is seen, we do not understand that what we see may be a finished product of what had to really be walked out in people. Now I know that God was trying to tell me to have the “courage to wait.” That can be lost in all of the other distractions we have in the world. Thanks
Hello Priscilla
Stay focused and don’t allow things to distract you. There are people out there who need you and those connected to you who need you as well. Keep walking toward what God has for you my friend….so happy to have you apart of our community.
This article is so awesome. All my life, I never not had a man. I didn’t know how not to have a man, even if it were what amounted to half of one.
I wish I had known you 10 years ago when I decided to become single and celibate. It took me most of that time to become content with where I was in life. Then, I wasn’t waiting for a husband anymore. I was just enjoying myself and concentrating on hearing from and heeding the Lord. Then, in the blink of an eye, I reconnected with my childhood sweetheart after almost 30 years of being separated. After 3 months we are engaged.
My friends keep asking me what I did to make all of that happen. I didn’t go anything. God did it all. I just want to encourage the ladies reading this article that God IS good.
Excellent advice, Quentin.
Your story is so encouraging. My dad told me when you stop looking and focus on God..thats usually when the right one comes along. When we try to do things on our own..its like we are telling God we don’t trust him to handle it. Thank you for sharing!
@Chele thank you for sharing your story and offering encouragement for others…
Im so glad to know that Im not alone in feeling this way about being alone, or shall I say embracing my singleness. As others have said, it is difficult to wait but I know that God has me in this season as a means of preparation for something greater. Thanks for this blog.
@Latrella
Everyone in the community is all in this together my friend. We all have the same pains, pleasures, doubts, fears,hopes, dreams, etc
We just all have different last names…Be encouraged my friend…
I often think about what it means to wait. No one likes to wait, and sermons about it are the worst!! What I have enjoyed is creating a deep relationship with Christ. Lately it seems what I’ve been “waiting for” has changed… My desires have changed! God is faithful!
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Reading this is just so refreshing. I am alone and I enjoy it. I have my alone(ness) moments but over all I know that I am quality. I love doing the things that I LOVE to do. I will just break out and dance in my bedroom to some music. lol. To top the icing on the cake? I am in so in love with God from everything within me. Thank you and keep telling women and men that its OKAY to be alone and learn how to love yourself. “You must LOVE the lord with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind.” AND love your neighbor as yourself.” Luke 10:27 How can anyone love another if they don’t know how to love themselves? This is where God comes into play. We all have to continuously seek him and embrace him to understand what love is about! 🙂 Be encouraged Ladies!
Beautifully said! And true to the soul.
This is a good blog, along with the comments the ladies have made. It is hard to be patient when you desire to be in a relationship with marriage as the goal. I have even tried to find my own mate and in doing so, my emotions and very spirit were disturbed. God showed me that nothing will work when I try to do His job..He is jealous over me and He wants all of me, my love, my trust. He wants to mold me into the very person He’s created me to be. In this I will be so complete and satisfied in Him…and the mate he has for me can then walk into my life…
I have this feeling that God has amazing things in store for me and currently I am in a transition phrase. It was revealed to me that it was I that was rushing into relationships. I made the decision to not get involved in a relationship and continue to keep my focus on God and His will for my life. I know with prayer, patience, and being obdient, God will give me the desires of my heart. Thanks for posting this article and as always please continue to do great things in the name of the Lord. God Bless You!
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Great read! Will share with friends.
This was very good information. It is so very important to be content with yourself and your relationship with God. It is very true it takes courage to wait on God. My focus is not God sending some one into my life. My main focus is having God in my life and as my relationship continues to grow in him. I can be the person that will be a blessing to the very special person he sends me. I am so busy living for God that love will take me by complete surprise, lol.
This is so true, It does take courage. But courage comes when faith is developed in God. What has helped me wait patiently, is my relationship with God. I find my focus is more on seeking God & doing his will, than seeking for a man. When our focus is on our relationship with God and allowing God to develop our characters, pursuing his plans for our lives, accomplishing goals, ministering to others, living our lives abundantly. We become less focused on waiting and more focused on living. By the time God prepares us, for the awesome man of God he is preparing to send us as a soul mate, we will be a blessing to each other. God’s timing is always right.