No one says, “I want to love and then lose it.” In fact, when we enter a loving relationship, we may find ourselves praying for it to last forever. Many have said, “Love is unpredictable.” In actuality, love is not the problem, people are. Love has never abused anyone. On the contrary, people abuse love.
So, is it possible for love to last forever? How can we have more certainty that our relationships will continue to grow and flourish? What are some of the foundations of lasting love?
In this blog, we will discuss 3 foundational concepts for entering relationships that will last.
(1) Love has no room for selfishness
The truth is, we are naturally geared towards being selfish. We spend more time with ourselves than others. Therefore, it only makes sense to think of ourselves first. However, love is about selflessness. So, we have to die to ourselves daily. This means, we must make up our minds to willfully and consciously be selfless. This is not an easy process for most of us, but we still must work hard to make it a way of life.
Please understand, dying to self does not mean neglecting yourself. In fact, when you truly love yourself you are selfless and not selfish. You understand that God created us to share and serve others. People were not created for us to use, abuse, or fulfill our wants and needs. God placed us all here to be a blessing to one another. God uses all of us to get His work done on this earth. Selfishness is everything that is opposite of the very nature of our God. When we take on selfishness, we take on the nature of Satan. When we take on the nature of love, we take on the nature of God.
(2) Love is a journey
Think of love as one long journey that will be filled with ups and downs. Hopefully, there will be more ups than downs. I stated last week, “Love is not about finding the right person, it’s about you being the right person.” Love is always about what we give and not get. The world attempts to sell you on the idea that it’s about what someone does for you, how they make you feel, or what they bring to your life. Yes, these things are important, but nowhere near the most important.
(3) Love adds to the life of another
The most important things are tied to who you are and what you bring to the life of another. How often do you enter a relationship and ask yourself the question, “How can I add to this man/woman?” I would venture to say most people never do this because they are too busy wondering, “What can this man/woman do for me?”
We are responsible for our own part in a relationship. Do your part and, if it doesn’t work, you know you gave your all. True love is not based upon how someone makes you feel. It’s based upon your choice to love them unconditionally.
If your love is based upon how someone makes you feel, then it’s not real. Once the feelings change, then you change. Refrain from running hot and cold and give yourself (and the one you love) what you both deserve.
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