Overcoming a break-up is never easy. Here are a few tips to help get the process started in a positive direction.
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… but this is a problem I have with men, period. Why do men always want to monitor how we spend money and what we are spending it on. I had this conversation with a few women and everyone had the same problem. Why are they tracking our purchases like they with the FBI or something. Most women I know who are in relationships are creeping around like they are on some type of secret squirrel mission because they want to buy something. Men buy whatever they want to support their hobbies, interests or whatever. They will drop money on all the latest sports gear, electronic devices, pay to order the fight on cable, treat their friends to drinks, pretty much whatever they feel like doing. They dont deprive themselves but are always complaining about what women are buying. That’s a double standard.
And, Quentin, you are wearing Ralph Lauren in the video; you didn’t get that from Wal-Mart or Target. You treat yourself well.
I am confused by your comments..the video is about overcoming break-up not about men carrying about what women purchase. It’s impossible to answer your question, because every situation is different. I am frugal and I don’t spend a lot of money period. I believe in living below means, having no debt, paying cash and not wasting money. If one is not in a strong financial position they should not be buying a lot of anything, but saving and investing. Most people are broke and not in a strong financial position,so the men maybe concerned about the waste or materialism of the woman. I don’t know any men who spend without discipline regardless of their hobbies. Financial planning is something most people are not aware of or have no knowledge of what it takes to develop or grow real wealth. Anyone who is living pay to pay check (no major savings) should not be out shopping without discipline…..
Ouch! I needed to hear these seven ways to handle a break up! I’ve been separated for six months, headed toward divorce. My husband left our home unexpectedly, since then we’ve been to marriage counseling through church and private practices, marriage retreat etc. One minute he is willing to work on the marriage the next he is out! I know I have to make a decision about my future and these tips resonated with me! Thanks for your ministry!
Sorry to hear about your marriage. I hope that you and your husband can work things out for the best. Divorce is very hard. Much harder than breaking up. Most get married believing that it will last forever and don’t have a backup or just in case plan. I hope that your marriage does not end in divorce. I’m glad you frequent Quentin’s site. The information here will definitely help you through what you are going through. My prayers are with you.
This is very good information. Many times people pull out of information what they want and expound on the minor (still relevant) verses focusing in on something that is meant to minister to the heart of situations (crisis, chaos, confusion) however one wants to describe, in their lives.
Personally I understand about shopping to mask pain. In my personal situation, I could afford it and paid cash for the items I purchased but when you lay down at night, you ask yourself, did the money spent on “material things” remove an ounce of the hurt or the pain you carry as you sport your “new clothes?” The answer is no, it really doesnt. So I recognize the “what” behind
Going through a divorce, I’ve chosen to not become involved with anyone at this time and allow healing to take place. I’m also getting to know who I am after a long stint of having that partner and friend. What Ive found that really has me at a loss is to see that spouse, although your divorce is not final, immediately (3-4 months) after moving out of our home, date and move in with another female. As a woman, it feels as if all the years together were easily discarded as if they never meant anything to him.
Even in a brief conversaton of how it feels to see through social media another female boasts about being in a relationship with your spouse was met with being told the marriage, the years, are irrelevant and in “his” mind he is no longer my spouse and he has moved on. Even in understanding about “rebound” relationships somewhat, if he’s moved on, why wont he change his mail from my home and no he hasnt retrieved it, nor asked to retrieve it, but move on totally if you’ve actually moved on.
A super article on how to manage breakup, I really liked the way you have crafted the post, I have written some useful tips as well on breakup advice http://howtotackleproblems.blogspot.in/2013/09/breakup-advice-for-men-and-women.html