Many times in life we focus on what someone does to show us how they love us, but we fail to realize love is what we give not get. The very first question one must ask is, “how can I love who I am with?” Here are 15 ways to love your man or woman:
1. Take the 5 love languages quiz together. It will help you both understand your love languages. This will aid in you both in learning how to love one another better. Click here for love language quiz.
2. Be open and honest about everything. Dishonesty and lack of transparency cripples love. The truth may hurt sometimes, but in a healthy and mature relationship it will bond.
3. Ask how you can be a help in the life of the one you love. If they have dreams and goals, determine how you can help them accomplish them.
4. Speak life into the one you love. Speak blessings and encouragement.
5. Pray together.
6. Understand that when you have conflict it doesn’t equal bad. Healthy conflict, along with healthy conflict resolution, is good for a relationship. In conflict, we can learn a lot about our self and the one we love.
7. Stand strong during the hard times. Remember, anyone can love you when the sun is shining. In the storms of life is where love is supposed to shine the brightest. In the storms is where you learn who truly loves you.
8. Complement each other often. I am not talking about just empty words, but a sincere compliment.
9. Have patience. Patience allows people to be human. Without patience, loving unconditionally will be very hard. For more information read “Relationship Coaching: Love is a Choice”
10. Lay your baggage on the bed together as one. Unpack the baggage and issues you have together. Then figure out how you both can help each other overcome the problems.
11. Ignore the cell phone when you are together. Create eye contact and truly focus on what they need.
12. Learn how to make each other laugh. Humor is always good for the soul.
13. When you mess up, be accountable for your mistakes. This shows respect, love, and a willingness to improve.
14. Forgive each other after conflict. Make sure the issues are dealt with using action steps that lead to a solution. For more information read ” Singleness: 7 Reasons Why You Forgive and Forget.”
15. Don’t just apologize. Change.
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Love #5 but they are ALL outstanding Quentin! Thank you for blessing us with a 2nd blog 2 days in a row! All very valuable.
THank you Michelle!
Informative information! Thank you so much for sharing Quentin 🙂
Glad you enjoyed Tawanda
Thanks sir! That’s some good ting you’re imparting to us. My primary Love Language is Quality Time. Keep up the great work. You’re changing and influencing generations with your efforts to build healthy relationships leading to healthy marriages so babies can be raised in whole households. Your vision is bigger than you and that’s why I respect you so!
Hello Myisha,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I truly appreciate your encouragement. You are correct what I am doing is so much bigger than myself. My mission is exactly what you wrote…to build healthy relationships leading to healthy marriages in hopes our children will be positively impacted for generations. Thank you!
I absolutely LOVEEEEEEEEE this right here <3! I've always wanted to know of substantial, yet REALISTIC, ways to love a man without losing myself & this is on point right here! It's important to keep God first through it all & just everything that you stated alone in this blog shows me just how much God means in EVERY relationship we have in our lives, especially romantic ones so I love this VERY much & I look forward to many more blogs to read & apply to my life 🙂
Thank you Alishia…I so happy the tips are very helpful for you. Most importantly I look fwd to feedback from you trying out the tips
Alishia you are so very welcome…! I am honored to serve and be a blessing to your life
I just took the love languages quiz, and I’m over here shaking my head at myself… lol. My primary language has changed since the last time I took this quiz maybe 3 years ago. I also worked through it with my children. Let’s just say my daughter is just like her momma… lol. My son’s language was exactly what I guessed it would be.
The steps you’ve given above are good relationship practices in general. They’ve highlighted, for me, some of my areas of growth in my relationship with my children. After all, the LAST thing I want is for them to make the bad choices I made, so I might as well teach them to love the right way while they are still young.
Wow with your kids! I think that is really awesome! and I wonderful chance to explain to them about what love is and what is not…awesome…
I need to learn this all over agin. So many times we get comfortable in our relationships that we don’t feel the need to change. Times change, people change.
10. Lay your baggage on the bed together as one. Unpack the baggage and issues you have together. Then figure out how you both can help each other overcome the problems.
We live in a society that says if your mate has any baggage at all, it makes them a liability and a bad choice as a mate. We are striving towards some unrealistic goal because if we don’t allow anyone else to have baggage, we aren’t allowing for any of our own. If you think you are ever at a point where you have NO baggage it’s a dangerous place to be — blind. There’s noting wrong with unpacking your bags together.
Thank you for breaking that taboo, Quentin.
Thank you Chele for noticing such a powerful truth….I thank you greatly
This is so true.
Love this. Knowledge is power. I love learning
Awesome, thank you Que for the wisdom
Plz njoy and b blessed by this reading, I am…
Excellent! I’ll definitely be sharing!
Hi, i am thankful for your block it has been an eye opener.
Whoa…great info! I’ll endeavour to put them all into action constantly. I’ll keep you updated…many tanx***
This is powerful knowledge that needs to be marinated constantly. You are highly appreciated for teaching and sharing with us. God bless your heart always Sir.
I encourage everyone to take a close look at this information. Your relationship will be enhanced. Thanks Quentin! You are a Good send!