Here is my video discussing How to Break Sexual Soul Ties:
Having sexual intercourse with someone creates a bond between you and that person. This is what I call at sexual soul tie (Please read my blog, “3 things you need to know about Sexual Soul Ties” to learn more). Soul ties can cause use caught into cycles of insecurity, poor relationship choices, unhealthy or harmful lifestyles. We’ve all done things, and made bad decisions and choices. We must root out what caused use things and can begin our healing. Breaking free for ties and healing allows you give 100% of yourself in current (or future) relationship.
Time does not heal wounds. We must take action to delivered from soul ties. We overcome sexual soul ties through the heart, the mouth, and the blood of Jesus. This is same way you come to salvation… the heart, the mouth, and the blood of Jesus. The same covenant of saved and come to God is delivered from sexual soul ties.
Here are 5 steps to help you overcome and break your sexual soul ties:
(1) Forgive and repent:
Forgiveness begins your healing. You must forgive people who have hurt or wronged you. You must also forgive yourself for hurting others or causing yourself pain. Though forgiveness is not easy, you must be accountable. Forgiveness is more for you than the other person.
If your soul tie is not connected to abuse (molestation, rape, etc…), after you forgive the must repent to God for the sin that caused that soul tie.
(2) Reject all words:
Those words that you continue to play back in your mind are a part of what is holding you to the person that you are soulishly tied to. Good or bad, you must renounce (in the name of Jesus) everything that person said to you. Let go of the letters, cards, emails, etc…
(3)Remove / Destroy anything holding you to that person:
As you are praying for God to purge your spirit, you must also have natural actions (“…faith without works is dead” – James 2:20, KJV). Action causes faith activation. So, you need to throw away all material items that connect you to that person (e.g. cards, letters, clothes, watches, shoes, furniture, sexy garments, etc…).
Those tangible items symbolize the ungodly soul tie that you have with that person. You must break free and begin to purge these things from you in the natural.
(4) Speak against the ungodly soul ties in your spirit:
Ask God to remove that person and break the tie between you. Let God know that you are aware of your sexual soul tie and what you have done or what was done to you. You must pray specifically and call the person or people by name. This will begin to loose and release the chains that are on your life because of the soul tie.
(5) Continue Prayer:
As you begin to be released from your sexual soul ties, continue to pray for guidance and direction from the Lord. Pray for direction in your decision making. Pray for healing and total deliverance. Most importantly, say a prayer of thanksgiving for being set free.
Ultimately, realizing where you are and admitting where you are is what is going to set you free. You have to be the right one before you can have the right one. Breaking free of sexual soul ties is a step towards being the right one. Also, if you are finding it difficult to break free on your own, do not be ashamed to get the help that you need. Seek your healing.
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I agree with your blogs McCall.
Thank you my friend…..
what if there is a child involved and it was not a sinful situation but a poor relationship choice that has been proving for years to be not life -giving. Is it still possible to break free.
You can still overcome..the child has nothing to do with breaking a soul tie.
How do you know whether to break from a soul tie made through marriage or to struggle through to the end? This is when for years there has been little growth, hurt, pain on both sides and in my case depression and low self-esteem and diminished capacity to perform socially, and it is affecting my child.
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Hey,
I am not a Christian but believe in God,
I enjoyed this and a lot of things you said made a lot of sense.
Thank you
Thank you so much Ben for your Kind words…God spoke to you
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If someone has already done Steps 2 and 3, should they do everything they can to seek that person out to forgive them (first half of Step 1)? Not knowing anything about that person or their whereabouts may actually cause more problems once found, I’d think. Would it be possible just to forgive them in your heart during a time of prayer and meditation with God?
I never suggested anyone seek anyone out , but it’s OK to tell someone you forgive them if you like. That’s not the important part….the important is that you forgive no matter if they know it or not…and that you forgive yourself as well.
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is it really necessary to cut clean from the people you have soul ties with? what if that person is part of your closest friend group? does that mean you lose those friends too just to avoid the person?
Without knowing all the specific details…..Yes.
I’ve been divorced for almost two years. My wife filed for divorce and I fought it with all my resources allowed by law. I cannot let her go emotionally. I still love her and am clinging to the hope that we can someday reconcile. She has since moved on to a new relationship. Its with an old boyfriend and I am devastated. I have heard of a soul tie, but haven’t been willing to break in hopes of reconciliation. How do I bring myself to make the break? Will I be able to love again? Will someone be able to love me? I feel like the answer to both these questions is no.
Can I still be in a relationship with someone who I broke a soul tie with? But without any sexual relations?
Before I got, I was in the process of breaking my soul ties. I had purchased two books. One was No More Sheets by Juanita Bynum and the other was called I believe God’s Princess or something like that. Anyway, i still dream about them and occasionally look for them hopingto into them again, and I hate it. I absolutely hate it.
This makes sense to me….I am in an unhealthy relationship…internet long distance with a man….I was seeking love, but accepting sex….virtual…..he never wanting to talk on the phone, telling me recently that I “crave constantness (his spelling, not mine….) the opposite of what I am…..spontaneity, and the unknown is best”….that I am “sending him messages that are too long”…”that he doesn’t do long”…I was there for him when he was broke and needed money to pay rent, buy food, etc. I wired him money week after week to the tune of over $3k. I need to be able to forgive…..and be accountable….I beat myself up all the time….everyday is a rollercoaster struggle……I feel so broken….have left a marriage (not happy one….) of 18 yrs….two sons……divorce final next month. I really relate to your word. I have held on for too long. I pray for freedom from this. Please pray for me.
Everyone should do this before marriage. This is the no. 1 reason of issues in modern day marriages.
I have a problem I have not been able to find help for anywhere.I have been in a relationship with a man for the past 19yrs. when I met him be was separated from his wife.initially he told me he was unmmarried,but after I got pregnant he admitted it.I asked him what the future held for us and he said everything takes time.when our ba y was a few months old he made his annual trip home to haiti.before he left we took a “family” portrait for his mother back home.I was upset because he would be gone for 2wks,the longest we would ever been apart since we met.he told me not to worry on his return eberything will be different.I did not know him to be a liar,and still don’t.however,on his return he moved back in with his wife!he didn’t even tell me.I have been told by him they were not on speaking terms which was confirmed by a friend after he had moved back.this friend told me that in the weeks before he went away they were. back on good terms.the wife knew about the baby as he admitted to it,it was after she realized he was serious about me that she became more friendly toward him.she has even admitted to me that he told her everything,but she assumes I knew everything.I later learned he was planning on divorcing her to be with me.he wanted to surprise me.to this day he will not tell me he is going to do something,like if he sees I need something he will get it and not tell me before hand.I havebeen told that his wife’s family gave him something to eat or drink turning him away from me.he has never left me,though he said he was thinkin about it at one point .we have been through a lot together,in my darkest hour he was always here for me.he has never hidde us,we go out together and his family knows about us.he is a good person and takes care of both homes.neither his wife or l work.some say she is evil.her children like me and take up for me,which I find really strange.I know something was done to him.how can it be undone?
Thank you very much. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and recently found out about a woman that has been involved with my husband for many years, including the time we have been married. This has been very devastating, but ultimately, I realize that he is a soul in need of salvation, if not, restoration. So, I am gearing up to stand in the gap for him. Even as I write these words, I know that it is not in me to do this and I am requesting the prayers of all the Saints for my strength in the Lord. I really appreciated this brief presentation on soul ties, because it is very easy to comprehend and is something that I have sent to my husband in hopes of starting the conversation. I pray that God will continue to bless your ministry and that you never loose sight of the need and value of your style of teaching. Be blessed.
Thank you very much. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and recently found out about a woman that has been involved with my husband for many years, including the time we have been married. This has been very devastating, but ultimately, I realize that he is a soul in need of salvation, if not, restoration. So, I am gearing up to stand in the gap for him. Even as I write these words, I know that it is not in me to do this and I am requesting the prayers of all the Saints for my strength in the Lord. I really appreciated this brief presentation on soul ties, because it is very easy to comprehend and is something that I have sent to my husband in hopes of starting the conversation. I pray that God will continue to bless your ministry and that you never loose sight of the need and value of your style of teaching. Be blessed.
Thank you McCall for bringing clarity on this important topic where a lot of people struggle to get out of it. Praise be to God.
What if a baby is involved with the person you have an unhealthy soul tie with
This is really good info.
really good teaching
Do sexual soul ties affect both partners the same way?
My marriage was in a vague of divorce, my husband moved to work a new place where he got another woman pregnant and was staying with them not coming home anymore. I became spiritually weak and I ended up falling into a trap and found myself in the arms of a man who treated me the way I needed to, he loved and supported me. We sexually connected in an usual manner,though I new that what is happening was wrong coz i was still legally married to my husband ,our souls were tied together. When my husband heard about this he decided to come back and ask me to forgive him snd and we start again. We are together now but soul is with someone else. I see him in my mind. Sometimes I have sex with him in my dreams. I relate every situation and everyone to him, stil sense his cologne. I need deliverance on this, its too heavy for my heart.