Six Basic Things Every Relationship Needs

There are a six  things every relationship must have… just basic concepts. If you focus on these things and consider them before getting into a relationship or even in the relationship you have, you are arming your relationship to be all that God would have it to be.

1.) Prayer – I think all couples should pray together. Even if they don’t pray together, they should at least be praying individually about the relationship. Don’t be so moved by the emotion; be moved by the Spirit of God. Prayer is very intimate for some people and not everyone will be comfortable praying with you at first, but give it time and make sure it happens at some point.

2.) Honesty – Honesty is so important because, when the relationship loses trust that basically kills the relationship. No trust, no relationship. hands

3.) Closed door to your past – When your ex calls, texts, emails… you don’t need to answer. Many people try to enter into relationships, or are even in long-term relationships currently, and they’re still having conversations with their ex. Whether it be Facebook, Twitter, email, text messages, or actual phones calls… This disrespecting your current relationship and it’s also showing you haven’t let that relationship go. Also, you’re opening yourself up for something to happen. So close one door before you open up another door.

4.) CommunicationIf you expect to have a great relationship, you need to have awesome communication. You need to be transparent. You must be vulnerable and really talk about things that are important. Don’t just have a sugar-coated relationship, where the relationship is filled with a lot of stuff. For example, you just travel a lot, you just date a lot, and you just do a lot of fun things. Now, there is nothing wrong with having a fun relationship. However, it has to consist of something of more substance. Whatever deep rooted issues somebody may be dealing with, those things need to be discussed out in the open. There’s no need to play games and hide things. In some relationships people have a tendency not to tell the truth and don’t really deal with everything. In those cases, the relationships tend to go into a negative direction.

5) Readiness – Most people don’t deliberately consider this, but you need to make sure you’re ready to have a relationship. This is one of the most critical things. So even if you’re in a relationship that’s 1-2 years old, be honest with yourself. Why are you even in that relationship? Are you in that relationship just to get married? Do you just like the way the person looks? Do you like what they bring in your life, some kind of social status or whatever? Be honest with yourself. Are you in that relationship to fulfill some kind of wound or some type of emotional emptiness? Well, if you’re doing that, you’re not dating with integrity because you’re using the person in hopes that the relationship will work out. If it doesn’t work out, things don’t go well, you’ll probably be very quick to run and get away from the relationship because you’re really not ready to have one.

6) Character – Be open, be selfless, and don’t enter into situations where you know you’re using people for your own personal benefit. Have integrity and have character. If you’re going to be in a relationship, have tremendous character; really be open and, if you follow these great tips that I’ve just given, you have established the basis of a very, very strong relationship.

Out of the six things that I’ve just mentioned, most people don’t even do three of them. A lot of that is based on several things. There’s a whole litany of things from selfishness, to mental issues, emotional issues, physiological, whatever that contribute to this. There are plenty of reasons but this is a brief blog. Please, regardless, use this information and apply it to your own life.

In Him,
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