Everyone has shortcomings and we all face issues. We all make mistakes and we all have room to improve. As a matter of fact, when dating, you should seek to get to know people who are open to improving. It is quite refreshing to interact with people who can quickly and peacefully admit when something is wrong, fix it, and keep going.
However, then there are the times, when situations are not all that simple. This is what I want to address today. There are some people who are dealing with things that have immediate and lasting impacts. They need focused help. Now, this is not to judge anyone. We have all been in this place for one reason or another in life. Some issues take days to deal with while some may take months or even years. It all depends on the nature of the issue and how it is manifesting itself in your life.
This article is not about whether issues exist or not. It is about helping you make better dating choices. When it comes to dating, it is critical to be mindful of these types of situations. Are you able to distinguish shortcomings which can be quickly fixed vs. those things that require more focused attention?
Here are 7 types of people you might want to avoid dating:
1. Fresh out of a relationship. People are needy and struggling with various emotions fresh out of a relationship. Thus, they will seek to numb the pain at any cost. Avoid starting a relationship when someone fresh out of relationships. I made this mistake myself in the past. Learn more by reading How a Life Coach Overcame a Tough Break-up and The Shocking Truth About Rebound Relationships.
2. Insecure. Insecurities don’t make a relationship better just worse. Learn more by reading 9 Ways to Overcome Insecurities.
3. The Clubber. They live in the club and at happy hour. Some people in this stage of life are dealing with insecurities and attempting to numb their pain through appearing important, social, and attractive. They may also be immature and lack focus on what is truly important in life. Women who club dress to show off their curves to every man willing to look. Men who club usually just show up for the ladies. After a certain age and level of maturing, one should let the fantasy of the club life go. You can’t expect to meet a man or woman with the right motives through clubbing. Clubbing speaks to the mindset of a person and where they are in life. Date a clubber at your own risk.
4. Desperate. This type of person will do anything to have a relationship. Furthermore, they will rush into a relationship with you and attempt to get married before they are truly ready.
5. Critical. This type of person will always be very critical of everything you do. Nothing you do will be good enough unless it meets their standards. They usually carry a lot of emotional baggage and bitterness which causes them to respond critically to many things you may attempt to do.
6. Clingy. This type of person usually suffers from insecurities and will never want to leave your presence. They might even call you 100 times a day and not allow you to breathe. They often will get mad if you spend time with other people outside of them or even conclude you having to work as rejection.
7. The Brick Wall. “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” Proverbs 4:23. People typically interpret this scripture. The assumption is that it is telling us to guard our heart against people. Actually, the scripture is saying to guard our heart from anything that will cause us to sin. (Yes, that can apply to people as well… if a person causes us to sin.) However, when someone is too cautious and builds walls that are too high, it means no one can get in and they can’t get out. This means they cannot love you or themselves to the best of their ability because they are allowing pain and unresolved issues to interfere with their growth.
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